As my belly gets bigger more patients and other people that don't know me personally are asking:
"Is this your first?"
Even the nurse at my OB asked me this morning.
It's a normal question but obviously the answer is not so straight forward in our family.
Sometimes I say yes because it is my first baby.
Sometimes I say no because it's not my first child.
Sometimes I explain the yes and no of it.
The yes and no explanation brings ALOT of questions:
Are the girls sisters? (yes)
Did you know them before? (no)
Were you planning to get pregnant? (yes) (I got this ALOT from co-workers in the beginning and even some friends...I think some folks must have thought the family boom was too crazy to have been planned:)
Did you think you weren't able to have children? (We had never tried)
I don't mind these questions at all. I love talking about my girls and about adoption. But WOW am I having this conversation alot lately. Who knew?
Our family dynamic is a tricky thing:)
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humm. Never thought about you having to tell "your life story" to strangers (and others). When I show up with Piglet, people I haven't seen in several months ask me if they missed something. It's easy to answer when I am alone but when the other two are with me it makes it harder because I don't like pointing out to others in front of them that they are our foster children. They know the "foster" word and it was said to them so many times in a negative way before they entered care as a threat that I hate to use it in front of them. I understand people asking questions but it is hard to explain sometimes. Plus people don't understand why we do foster care, esp. since we have 5 children already.
Just for the record...I get some of those questions about you too when I'm bragging on you:)
I think a lot of people assume you were not able to have children because you adopted. My response is "no, they're just WONDERFUL people". I've said it many times Jess, but I am SOOOOOOO proud of you! Can't wait to see you this weekend!!
My answer has and will always be God's plan gave me my daughter!
AND I thank God everyday for many answered prayers.
I get the same thing. At the Dr.'s office they always ask how many pregnancies, how many children etc and I think I have the answers ready but it gets all confused anyway. One birth. one adopted. 2 kids. Ok!
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