Or maybe it's just that I've thought it a million times, but here is a small ARG! moment:
As I said, our SW has recently left DHR for another job. A few months after we got the girls (Jan '08) this same SW went on maternity leave and we saw NO ONE from the state for FOUR MONTHS! NOBODY! We were surprised but new at the whole thing so we just went about life.
With the adoption coming up in a few weeks and with previous experience, I kind of assumed we wouldn't be having any more home visits. Oh the unpredictable DHR:) So I received a message yesterday from a SW taking over for our previous SW, "This is so-and-so and I was calling to schedule a meeting to visit with the foster children living in your home." The foster children living in our home! This kills me!
It goes without saying but these aren't our "foster children" but OUR children and they aren't living in "our home" this is THEIR home. For the record, I understand that the new SW meant nothing personal by what she said. She is simply doing her job and calling about a case that she is largely unfamiliar with. But because I am familiar and it IS personal to me it gets under my skin.
Foster care is something that I have been passionate about for quite sometime so it has taken me by surprise how much the term "foster child" when used to describe the relationship between myself and my children ABSOLUTELY DRIVES ME NUTS!
Okay, that's all. Just had to get it off my chest.
We are just so ready to be normal. To share last names. To NOT have people coming into our home to "check up" on us. So ready.
Just a few weeks!
Again, please pray with us that this new baby coming and our adoption court date doesn't try to happen on the same day (or within a few days with one another)!
2 comments:
I completely understand. We have a monthly visit from the "DHR Lady" as the kids put it. I almost let myself forget they are foster kids and then boom she's here again or there is another ISP meeting scheduled. Snaggle is having a hard time right now and the visit from SW did not help. He doesn't like the reminders that he is different. Poor kiddos. Praying for you and all three of your little girls.
I just found yor blog.. but let me say...Oh how I understand!! we are in the process of adopting, to me... she is my daughter.. and it feels weird to have someone come in and as you put it oh so perfectly "check up" on us feels just weird.. I know they have to do it, but I am so ready for her to just be ours and not be considered a foster child.. Good luck with everything!!
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